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“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
~ Khalil Gibran

As we walk along our spiritual path we often stumble and fall or run smack into brick walls or fall off cliffs, we may even feel as if our very being is shattering into a million tiny pieces leaving us empty, broken, useless, and lost. At those times we have a choice – we can yell at the gods for abandoning us, we can crawl inside a hard shell and lock out the rest of the world, we can stay put in a our puddle of tears and pain, or we can chose to learn and grow and take a risk of transforming the pain into something new, whole, vibrant, and healing.

What struggles have you transformed? What has helped you cope with a stressful situation?

I’ve been through many major traumas and periods of chaos in my life. I know how difficult it is to keep balanced and positive when all the energy is being sucked out of you just to get through the day and put one foot in front of the other. These are the times to reach out for help from friends, family or even public services; to make the time to nurture yourself no matter what, and to remember to connect with the earth and the sky above and draw strength from the universe, ancestors, old ones, guardian angels and other positive forces of nature.

I’m not perfect at it trust me, but I am learning and each time I face a challenging situation I manage a little bit better each time I learn and grown a little bit more. In my younger days the whole idea of “positive thinking” just made me angry (“no amount of positive thinking was going to fix my life” was my belief), and people who smiled all the time were annoying (how could any one be that happy! was the response in my head). Fortunately I’ve grown in wisdom a bit over the last 50+ years and I now see the value of positive thinking and smiling really can cure a whole lot of things and makes the day go by much more pleasantly even in the worst of times.

Learning and practicing coping skills and healing techniques is very beneficial for learning how to weather the storms. Cultivating positive habits and thoughts that reinforce the connection to spirit and love in order to stay connected even in the darkest of times. Here are some examples of some of the practices that helped me to develop the inner resources needed to transform pain into healing: a daily practice of meditation (even just 10 to 15 minutes a day), keeping a journal of inspiration, maintaining a sacred space in my home to connect with the divine, learning relaxation and breathing techniques (qi gong) for reducing stress and healing.

Over the years I’ve survived and transformed from being a victim of childhood abuse, rape, cancer, extreme poverty and much more. It wasn’t easy and I don’t sugar-coat the experiences, but I have come out the other side of the dark tunnel of these experiences whole in body-mind-spirit, happy and loving, and dedicated my life to healing and living as a wise woman. It took a lot of hard soul searching and inner self work on my part. And I also allowed myself to accept the love and support of family and friends, and the inspiration and guidance of teachers who came into my life at different times in my life.

I invite you to share your ideas on transforming pain into healing, either in comments or if you wish to write a blog post about it please leave a link.

Namaste, Lady Rose

Note: photo from an anonymous facebook post, I added the quote.

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  2 Responses to “Transforming Pain”

  1. Another great post Lady Rose! I love that you have risen above your painful past; you are a strong woman, and a true inspiration.

    I recently finished working the Codependent’s version of the 12 Steps. I’m entirely sure I am a Codependent, but I do have a tendency to hang in unhealthy relationships far, far too long getting my heart broke each time. I made a vow to never get into another relationship… that was 5 yrs ago. However I recognized the need to heal; to let go of the bitterness and heartache of the past so that I can go forward. Someone recommended the 12 Steps; I’m not entirely sure how much they helped but they definitely made me think! It also brought back alot of painful memories and for a time I slipped into a depression, but that was temporary. I call this process a type of Shadow Work for I had to delve deep into myself and recognize some things. Among that… I love Positive Affirmations, Visualization, and Guided Meditations, and sometimes some inner child work. Healing can be painful… but what growing pains are not?

    • thank you so much for sharing Keltikmystique – your inner strength and beauty shines through in your words. I love the term “shadow work” (I may borrow it from time to time if you don’t mind) – it acknowledges the depths and darkness that needs to be explored, but the mere fact that shadow exists means there is light – all we need to do is acknowledge that light and allow it shine and the shadows no longer need to be frightening, but can be a place of cool, calm peacefulness where we can rest and heal, and we can travel between the two as needed out into the world and light doing what we need to do and coming back to rest within our cool peaceful shadows and healing ourselves.

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